If you put too much coal on the fire at once you'll smother it.
在火上一下子添上很多煤，反而能把火闷死。
I suspect that part of your nervous problem may be the smothering attitude of your family and you need to get out and try your wings a bit.
我想你胆小的原因部分是由于你家人的那种令人窒息的态度，你需要摆脱出来发挥自己的才能。
